Interesting stats. Wonder what would be reflected in stats comparing a time in the past of our once great country when we were more competitive in the academic arena world wide in relation to percentage of parents who believed in spanking?
:cheers::applause::righton:What it all comes down to is basic psychology. Spanking is negative reinforcement. Note that negative reinforcement is not inherently bad, only the opposite of rewarding for good behaviour (although positive reinforcement has shown to work better on the risk/reward scale.) At that age, they are working out their environment and discovering that for every action there is a consequence. They begin to associate that reaching for/grabbing the keys= a little pop on the rear end. The same goes for every other facet of life. What happens when they say, "momma" or "dadda" for the first time? You reward them with positive reinforcement in the form of happy faces and excitement, to show that that was the desired behaviour. For every action there is a reaction. A little startling pop is not going to hurt the baby, only reinforce that there are reactions to every action. They will then associate that every time they reach for the keys, I get a smack on the butt.
Although this is at the most basic level. As children grow older, the risk/reward scale becomes much more fluid, and as we have all heard, the frontal lobe is in charge of choosing between good and bad, overriding and suppressing socially unacceptable behaviour, and deriving consequences for actions, and doesn't fully develop until the early 20's. Hence welcome to the challenge of parenting
Ha! Someone should have taught my parents this (especially dear old dad). :?I would recommend not spanking if you're showing anger/frustration in the moment at the very young ages - as it comes across wrong.
Hopefully you don't think I was presuming he or anyone else in this discussion is doing that or I am telling anyone what to do.Ha! Someone should have taught my parents this (especially dear old dad). :?
We don't have kids or plan to but if we did I would not spank but I know others can do it without anger and I'd never be so presumptuous as to tell anyone else how to raise their kids. I have more of a problem with people who don't discipline their kids at all.
Hee hee :rotfl2:... my grandpa was the only one to ever make me and my brother do that.
No, not at all. I was just commenting on my experience.Hopefully you don't think I was presuming he or anyone else in this discussion is doing that or I am telling anyone what to do.
I was just offering a tip based on experience.
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LOL, I had to do that. The first few times I came back with a srawny little switch, THEY went a got one. I did NOT enjoy that. IF I had to get one the next time, I made sure it was sufficient and too large like they would have retrieved.
My youngest son will be 1 in just a few weeks. He already gets a stearn voice and re-deirected when doing something he knows he should not be doing. Anyone who tries to tell me (a father of 4) that a 1 year doesnt know when they're doing something wrong...well, I can't tell you what I think of you and your opinion because I may get warned/banned.Hee hee :rotfl2:... my grandpa was the only one to ever make me and my brother do that.
I brought him a tiny little stick with a leaf on it.
I used to have to do that. And if the one I cut wasn't good enough, I had to get an even better one than "good enough." My dad took it up a notch by making us get an extra thick one (he always told us precisely where to go on which plant -- we didn't have any hickories there) by slowly whittling the switch to the desired thickness, making a pile of curly slivers on a sheet of newspaper in the floor, making us watch, and telling is about what we did wrong until the switch was ready for use.