Joined
·
9,732 Posts
Something truly amazing happened to me a few days ago. I don't really know how to even begin to explain how happy I am...and proud. I guess I really shouldn't give too many details on a public forum, but I really have to share this. I will be careful to not identify anyone, as I made a promise a long time ago to protect and love a little boy who was not my biological son, as if he were my very own.
My first marriage ended when my ex wife found "greener pastures". I raised her little boy as if he were my own son, and I remember being the only "parent" who attended his PTA meetings, who sat and chatted with him when he cried, confused why his mom and dad were arguing over him, etc. I taught him how to be a gentleman, to stand up to bullies and how to treat his real friends. Even when his mother and I were having our differences, I made it a point to never get him involved - I protected his innocence. He was always a very observant and intelligent boy.
When his mother left, she did so while I was at work, and took everything that wasn't nailed down. She also placed a DV restraining order on me (in the attempt to try and get child support from when the baby she was pregnant with -not mine- was born). She disappeared and I never saw him again, until a couple days ago.
I did get a divorce - hired a PI to find her - she had remarried and had 2 children, the problem was, we were still married. The Judge granted me a divorce in 5 minutes. 4 years had lapsed. I asked for nothing.
Then, a complete chance encounter led me straight to my stepson a few days ago. We were both happy to see each other. We are making plans to catch up on all the years we missed each other. I won't tell him what happened - he already knows enough now to have told me ..."You did right by me. You improved me as a person, what happened to you was unjust."
I am overwhelmed. I worried and prayed every single day ....every day. Now my heart can rest easy. He is a man, and a nice one too.
My first marriage ended when my ex wife found "greener pastures". I raised her little boy as if he were my own son, and I remember being the only "parent" who attended his PTA meetings, who sat and chatted with him when he cried, confused why his mom and dad were arguing over him, etc. I taught him how to be a gentleman, to stand up to bullies and how to treat his real friends. Even when his mother and I were having our differences, I made it a point to never get him involved - I protected his innocence. He was always a very observant and intelligent boy.
When his mother left, she did so while I was at work, and took everything that wasn't nailed down. She also placed a DV restraining order on me (in the attempt to try and get child support from when the baby she was pregnant with -not mine- was born). She disappeared and I never saw him again, until a couple days ago.
I did get a divorce - hired a PI to find her - she had remarried and had 2 children, the problem was, we were still married. The Judge granted me a divorce in 5 minutes. 4 years had lapsed. I asked for nothing.
Then, a complete chance encounter led me straight to my stepson a few days ago. We were both happy to see each other. We are making plans to catch up on all the years we missed each other. I won't tell him what happened - he already knows enough now to have told me ..."You did right by me. You improved me as a person, what happened to you was unjust."
I am overwhelmed. I worried and prayed every single day ....every day. Now my heart can rest easy. He is a man, and a nice one too.
. 
